I know you
might be having something you have been pushing really hard in life, you have
that one thing you have been holding to for so long, you have something that you
expected, you had placed you faith so
much in that you can’t even bear the fact of it suddenly crushing. All
expectations are not met, and life seems to have crushed for you, but today I
have good news for you and as usual I do not have some rocket science method to
have your turnaround but rather have simple tried and tested strategies and
thoughts. Expectations bring us worry in our lives, and they have been causing
stress in many people and it seems normal as some would like to say, ‘That’s
the life’.
Alexander
Graham Bell once said, “We become so occupied by closed doors in our lives that
we tend to forget that when one door closes another is about to open”. This has
been our problem, we become so entrenched in the past that we forget that we
have a Now to live in and a future to prepare. You can’t change what happened
but instead prepare for the future as another once said, “Yesterday is not
there for us to change but tomorrow is there for us to win or lose”. I do not
care how many doors have been closed in your life, but all I care about how
many are still open to you. When one door closes another door opens, when your
business closes another opens, when your job closes another opens but it is
only those who are not so occupied in the past that they see they have a future
to prepare. In a dwindling and sinking economy, I saw some people constructing
buildings, building empires, starting businesses, buying houses, buying
expensive, living large and all those good thinks. Where some people where
complaining of no jobs, I still saw job adverts and still some people being
employed, where some were sacked from their jobs I still saw some starting
their own companies.
Whilst you
were busy gossiping about someone they were busy making their life and
preparing for the future. While you were avoiding some other people in your
life, you were giving them enough room to pursue their dreams. Whilst you
thought you had pulled them down and crushed their dreams, but instead you were
giving them enough zeal to prove you wrong and fuel to pursue their dreams.
Greatness in not for those who never fail, but those who see failure as a
lesson as Benjamin Franklin once said, “I have not failed but I have just
learnt how something cannot be done”. To them a closed door is just that door
which cannot take them to their goals and instead they opt for the open doors.
They do not waste time trying to open the closed door, but instead they would
rather look on the wall for another door because they know they is always a way
out. A closed door is not the end of life, rather it is just one door that will
not take you to your desired next level. When a door closes, look for another
door and try your luck, if it closes again look for another, but the good thing
is that this time around you will be more experienced to even tell which door
is about to close way before it does and you are just more knowledgeable to not
waste so much time on closed doors but rather move on to another level.
I like
Nelson Mandela quote when he said, “Don’t judge me by my successes, judge me by
how many times I have fallen and got up again”. It is not how many doors that
were open to you that measures your success, but it is a matter of how many
doors closed in your face, which you opted not to waste your time on. There is
no sweet without success and success would not be enjoyable if there were no
challenges. Another one once said, “If it was easy everyone could be doing it”.
It is never easy but the key is not to concentrate on the closed doors of your
life, but rather on finding the one that has been opened for you. It might be
dark in your room but only know that when one door closes, another opens and
all you need to be just to find it.
Tinashe Bonde is a
Motivational speaker, Leadership Coach, Author and Blogger. He is the founder
of African Pride Motivation www.africanpridemotivation.blogspot.com He is passionate about promoting
Africanism. Get in touch with him on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Google+ (
Tinashe Bonde)
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